f**K cAnCer btw

Posted: August 23, 2012 in The Big C
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The title for this post was something my friend Jenny said to me in a text & it pretty much sums up how I feel at the moment. Brian perfectly illustrates my current head-space in this clip from Spaced:

Brian and Art

Apparently I’m doing really well, at least so everyone keeps telling me.


Physically I feel really good at the moment & I’m getting myself all geared up for chemo round 4 this Friday. I’m fasting today & like a marathon runner I’m hydrating before the event. I’m seriously contemplating wearing my Camelbak for the next week as I get so thirsty after chemotherapy that I need a constant supply of water. I’ve gone past caring what I look like, so a watering-hole attached to my derrière will only add to my ridiculous appearance.

A guy who works in the village shop asked if I was feeling okay when he noticed I was wearing a beanie on a sunny day. He was so nice I didn’t have the heart to say: “actually I’ve got cancer & I’m completely bald!” so I just said: ” yeah i’ve got a cold”. Nothing like cancer to stop a conversation.

I spent part of last weekend in Edinburgh catching up with friends and doing the festival thing. This was my first venture out into the big wide world since my diagnosis and I had a great time, although it was tainted. Does my wig look convincing and will people notice my PICC line? It was all just a bit too weird. I have many happy memories of going to the festival in my previous life so I found it difficult to relax.

On a lighter note, if you are going to the festival, I can totally recommend Nick Helm (mental, angry, hilarious but definitely don’t sit in the front row) and The Boy with Tape on his Face (silent but very clever & funny)!


Mentally I’m really struggling at the moment. The prospect of major surgery and uncertainty about whether the chemo is working have weighed on my mind for the last few weeks. The possibility that the chemotherapy might not be working didn’t concern me until the surgeon planted the seeds of doubt over a  month ago.

This might come as a shock to most of you, as it did to me, however chemotherapy doesn’t work for everyone. Everybody responds differently to the cocktail of drugs given during chemotherapy. If the FEC drug regime doesn’t work it’s likely they will bring my surgery forward. Changing to a different drug regime at this stage is too risky and will waste too much time.

I have to wait until next week, when I have another MRI scan, to confirm if the tumour is responding to the chemotherapy. I’m really worried because the lump in my breast doesn’t feel any smaller, so I have a meeting a with my consultant tomorrow to discuss some of my concerns.


There’s so much they don’t tell you when you’re first diagnosed with cancer. I realise now why they don’t. If they told you everything at once you’d probably just find the nearest bridge and jump. I have hormone receptive breast cancer and I’m pre-menopausal so there’s a 1 in 4 chance that my cancer will return. Not great odds.

This is the first time since my diagnosis that I’ve started to feel really angry. I just want my old life back: F**K CANCER by the way.

  1. Erinn says:

    Yes, f**k it. It is a sneaky, insidious disease that f**ks up not just your body, but your mind and emotions too. It reaches into everything you love and changes it. But I do believe that you can come through it and be OK on the other side. You are infinitely stronger, more hopeful and more resilient than it is, even if you don’t feel that you are. After I have bad days, I’m amazed that good days follow, but they do, and they outweigh the bad. Thinking of you. Xxx

  2. iKeM cAnCeR fUcK oFf says:

    We’re all with you! I’m scared too, and I’m sad and I wish I could do something other than pray and hope. I fucking hate this shit, but I love you. I really really love you, we all do.

  3. loulouctee says:

    I’m behind you Kath saying “fuck cancer btw” too. Catchy little phrase Jenny came up with there. Like it. Be angry and find your own personal way to give the double Vs to cancer. This blog is a bloody great way if doing that. It’s a privilege to read it. I’ll say it again, you write really really well. I wish cancer hadn’t been the catalyst for unearthing your talent. You’ve found a great way of making lemonade though. Mega Metta to you xxxxxxxxx

  4. jeffriona says:

    We’ll punch cancer in the mouth!!! You can totally do it. Hopefully you feel a bit better after conversation with consultant today. But it’s going to fuck off!! Yes it is

    • killerkath says:

      Thanks for the F’ing support all! It means a lot to me that you all take the time to read my blog.
      You’re right Erinn the good days definitely outnumber the bad. My meeting with consultant today was fairly positive so I feel reassured that things are moving in the right direction.
      I did want to get ‘Fuck Cancer btw” printed on t-shirts for the sponsored walk I’m doing for Maggie’s but maybe that’s a bit much?! Think I’ll stick with ‘Cancer up yours!’ xxxx

  5. Clare says:

    Keep going Kath x sounds like you are doing amazingly well – all things considered xxx take care xxx

  6. Kerry says:

    Punch that cancer little b**ch in the face Kath!!!
    5-0 to you, POW! Hang in there, keep blogging, talking and fighting xxx

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